Good afternoon. I am linking with another blogger, Kelly's Corner, to share about being a step mother. This I can tell you is something that came easy to me Thank goodness! Tim and I first started dating 4 years ago. We had a lot in common. We both had children from previous relationships. I am going to be honest about a few things on here! Sorry ahead of time if I offend anyone!
At first we just saw each other on the nights when we did not have our kids. As things got more serious between us we slowly introduced ourselves to the others children. I think it was easier for Tim as my children were pretty young (Jaxon was 5 and Rena was 2). They instantly loved him. Of course there have been issues along the way. Tim had a hard time adjusting to someone else's kids living in his house more than his own kids do. I had a hard having Tim tell me how I should handle their disipline.
Tim's kids are a little bit of a different story. We only have Layne on a regular basis. We get to see Campbell some but I dont feel like it is ever enough. Then there is Cole. Who I have only met one time. The kiddo turned 4 last year and Tim hasnt seen him since he was 2. We are in a battle right now and are getting things figured out. Soon Cole will be at the house on weekends! So Layne and I get a long pretty well. She is a great kid. It took some time for her and I to adjust. She was used to having him to herself when she came over and I was barging in on their time. Not only me but me and the kids. It is better now but there are still hard times.
I read something somewhere and after I did it helped me a lot. God put love in your heart for your biological kids. You knew from the positive pregnancy test that you would love this child like no one you have ever loved before. God did not put that same love in your heart for your step children. This is a love that has to grow on its own. I remember that anytime I think about how it took Tim time to adjust to my kids.
I think we have all adjusted well and make the best out of our situation. I love Tim's kids. And he loves mine. We all grow and change and readjust together.
I admire you for your perseverance! My husband and I dated 2 1/2 years and I put what I like to call "chips in the bank" with his children.....things they could remember fondly when things got rough and they did. The main thing they learned is that I was there forever....they could depend on me and now as adults, they still know that and call on us and not their bio mother. She has mental issues and I'm so fortunate to have been able to help my husband raise his two boys.
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